In the West, maternity leave is a luxury. Tell someone you’re on maternity leave, and they say: “That must be so nice!”. Co-workers look at you and roll their eyes as if to imply that maternity is a vacation; but, every mother knows the truth – becoming a mother is tough. Even if you have an “easy baby” the beginning of their life is an adjustment period and the parenting learning curve is so steep that it’s anything but a vacation. A mother’s forty days of sitting is challenging, and precious, and it passes by so quickly. The forty days is not a time to hold your breath and pray until it’s over, it’s the foundational time in the relationship between parents and child. When dealing with such an important time the question isn’t “how can we get this done?”, the question is how can we create the space in our outward lives and within our private selves to honor this time?
With beauty, serenity, and open arms, Elaina Bellis lets me into her home to speak a little bit about her pregnancies, hardships, wellness regiments, and favorite foods. As a healthy mother of two beautiful one year old twin girls, she has a great deal of insight about the benefits of acupuncture and other wellbeing regiments during and after her births. As I sit with her over a meal of freshly prepared organic chicken fajitas (which I initially declined but then couldn’t help myself over), she opens up about some of the challenges surrounding her physical and emotional life as a result of trauma’s she’s experienced over the last few years.